There was a whole lot'a lusting going on!
Some people say things like - I fell in love with them because of their smile - or - I love them because of the way their eyes light up when they laugh...I do think you can love things about a person. But I don't think there is any single thing that makes anyone fall in love with a person.
There are A LOT of people out there with beautiful smiles or mesmerising eyes. But we don't fall in love with all of these people. We might love that part of them but it doesn't mean we love them. We might not even like them. So how can we say something like - I love them, because of the way they smile for the sake of smiling...
In my humble...
been IN love once, in lust a billion and one times, mistaken lust for love twice
...opinion. It's because that might be something that you love about them and it helps remind you of your love for them.
Speaking of lust. That is definitely a confusing little emotion that tags along with, romantic, love. And it's a big factor in the fun of being in love. It's what makes your heart beat a million times faster than a humming birds. It's the thing that makes you want to ravage your new, or matured, love. It's one of the differences between, loving someone and, being IN love with someone.
The reason this can be confusing is...we don't have to be in love with someone to be in lust with them. And I think that can catch people off guard sometimes, making them believe they're in love. I think you can be in lust over someone's smile, or their eyes, or the way they squint their eyes and smile when they laugh. But I don't think you can love someone because of any single characteristic.
When you fall in love with a person you don't, just, love their smile, or their legs or their sense of humour. You fall in love with them. You fall in love with their strengths and weaknesses...their quirks and flaws...you fall in love with, who they are!
The poster catches different levels of relationship I think